“I need to be practical and not philosophical in life if have to get things done. If the whole world becomes philosophical, all that we’ve achieved with science today would still be a dream for mankind. All I have to say is, philosophy is just B.S.! Cheers!”
The vice president of marketing raised his tall clear glass half-filled with German Pilsner and a Duchenne smile on his face. With a dreamy look and a pretentious smile on my face, I clang my glass, then glanced at the shimmering light on the soft ripples of the Elbe river flowing below the restaurant I was dining at with my coworkers in Hamburg.
For years I ruminated over what was said about philosophy that night, and I concluded that philosophy is not B.S. In fact, philosophy drives our lives. It may have gotten a negative connotation attached to it because of those who think that philosophers are just dreamers—those who ponder life while staring at the stars and the moon— unlike the observational, experimental, and inferential approach that science takes. Thought or reasoning—that’s also a meaning of philosophy.
Undoubtedly, we all participate in thought and reasoning in every domain and on every day of our lives. Think of the strategic placement of products in specific locations in shopping malls, retail outlets, and grocery stores. That’s philosophy. It’s based on the thoughts of shoppers (gender, age, etc.). The digital display of ads that pop up in your browser is philosophy based on what you search and click on. There are innumerable examples I could give to elucidate that you and I use philosophy in our relationships, professions, and social lives every day.
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The news about my boss, Andy, giving his two-week notice spread like wild fire in the department. Everyone who reported to him was apprehensive about what the next guy was going to be like.
Is the new guy going to be better or worse than Andy? Everybody was concerned about how this change would affect them, including other managers that worked with Andy.
Weeks later after Andy was gone, as I was working on the production floor, one of the technicians came up to me and said, “So I heard you have a new boss now.”
“Do I?” I inspected some plastic parts coming off a molding machine.
“You didn’t get the news yet? You and I will both be working for Shawn now,” he said as he scrunched up his face in discontent.
“Is is that bad?” I inquired.
“I don’t know how much you’ve worked with him, but he doesn’t deserve to be a manager,” he added, “The stars were lined up just right for him and the timing of it was right; that’s the only reason why he got to become a manager.”
Years later, I asked my audience at a speaking event: if they believed that everything, every single thing that they have in their life was because of their action. Some of them agreed, others did not.
Look at the above scenario. Andy made a clear conscious decision to quit and move somewhere else. So Andy created what he wanted through his action. However, Andy’s action also resulted in creating a vacant spot in the department. It’ll be foolish to say that Shawn intended that.
Did Shawn get the position because of his own action?
Some might argue that just like Andy, Shawn made a conscious decision of taking the position, so he created what he wanted through his action. Yes. But one intricate component of this scenario is that the decision made by one person (Andy) impacted what the other person (Shawn) got. That is referred to as destiny by some and opportunity by others.
Every one of us experiences this phenomenon in our personal relationships or professional careers at some point of time in our life. That relationship that you so deeply desired with someone, but it never worked out. The job or career that you so yearned for, but you ultimately ended up doing something that you had never dreamed of. Perhaps there is a component that we don’t have a control over: people and events both, which changes what we end up with.
No matter what you call it: destiny or opportunity, taking action is what ultimately makes destiny or opportunity a reality. Whether the result in what you expected or not—take action.
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Waiting at the light for over ten minutes, I heard the cab driver say, “We still have plenty of time to get to the airport, sir. We don’t have to rush. There is no point rushing for anything in life.”
“True,” I replied to him. Finally we were able to move past the light and onto the highway. The cab driver continued to talk about his life back home: his kids, wife and rest of his family. “The only reason I am here is for money,” he said, “If I had a choice I would never live in a crowded city like Delhi with so many people. He told me, that despite of having everything back home he still has to work here so he can earn more. “There are more jobs here and more money,” he said.
“Can I ask you a question?” I said. “Sure, ask anything you’d like,” the cab driver replied.
“What do you think is the real meaning of life? Why do you think everyone comes here?” I asked. With reverence, he said, “Sir, according to me the meaning of life is very simple. We are here to do good things for the world. We come here to experience, have babies, give our kids a good education; inculcate virtues in their life so they can also do well for the world and pass it on to their kids. I am Muslim and believe that this is what God’s message is for me. That is the only meaning of life and nothing else.” Quietly and patiently I heard every word.
While he was elaborating on the points, some of which were reiterating the earlier ones, I reflected upon the answer to the same question I asked to another cab drive during my day trip to Mumbai exactly one week ago. “Sir, I think there is no meaning to life. The reason why we all come here is because we have are supposed live. You come in world, live, eat, experience, enjoy and die. That is the meaning of life and nothing else,” is what he explained.
An hour later, we made it safely through the crowded streets of Delhi, the cab driver pulled close to the curb of the departures and said “If I would have said, something that you did not like, I would like to apologize. I hope I did not say anything to hurt you.” I believe, because I was sitting quietly in the back seat most of the time listening to him talk, he thought I was offended. “No, I really liked hearing your point of view. There is no right or wrong; it just is.” I shook hands with him and we parted.
Reminiscing, the conversation with both the cab drivers, I realized that they both used the word ‘nothing’ in their explanations. Perhaps there is really no meaning, no specific purpose to life for everyone who is here. The true meaning, true purpose is whatever we make it. Two years ago, I talked about definition of success in my studio recording: “If there are seven billion of more people on this earth, there are seven billion or more definitions of success.”
So how can the purpose of life for each one of us be the same? Even though both the cab drivers live in the same country and do the same thing for living, they seem to think differently about why we are here.
Perhaps, the page titled “My Purpose” for everyone who comes here is a blank page. We decide and make what that purpose would be. If it is to become an engineer, doctor, lawyer, dancer, cook, painter, musician, photographer, husband, parent or whatever else it might be, we write it all when we are here. The meaning of life or the purpose of our life becomes whatever we want to make it. And we create this purpose with only one thing—experience.
I was wrapping the boxes of precious gemstones after giving a presentation in an upscale retirement community in North Dallas. A lady approached me and said, “My husband, who died last year gave me this for our anniversary. I did not notice this before, but if you look carefully, there are a few black spots in this Ruby. Does this mean that this stone is fake?” I looked at her and smiled. “The technical word for the black spots is “inclusions.” That is what the industry refers to these black spots as and they are natural,” I replied.
That evening, while driving back home, reminiscing about my interaction with the lady made me smile again. But this time I was not smiling because of what she asked me. Co-relating her question to our personal, professional and social lives made me smile. Gemstones, including diamonds show inclusions because of a natural process. These could be impurities that become a part of the precious stones while its forming under high pressures and temperatures. A stone without any inclusions at all is more precious and rare. There is no laboratory process that can eliminate these inclusions. If you look at a cubic zirconia (a stone know for its brilliance and flawless characteristics), even under high magnification, you will find no inclusions in them. That is because they are lab created, they are not natural. Or as some people say “they are artificial.”
Flaws are a sign of being authentic. Most of us want to be flawless; we want to avoid making mistakes: doing or saying the wrong thing. But making mistakes, not knowing everything is being a human. That is what makes us authentic and acknowledging our flaws makes us absolutely authentic.
We all come across certain people in our personal relationships or work who have a hard time admitting what they don’t know. They feel the need to defend their position, they raise their voice and become dramatic. This happens when people are not connected with their inner-self. When we take ourselves for granted and always want to be right, that’s when we are fake. We are just dead-walking- alive!
Keep an open-mind, an open-heart and acknowledge when you are not right. Sometimes, it’s okay for others to know more than you. If you make a mistake, don’t be afraid to apologize. It makes you more genuine. There is nothing worse than defending your position to make a wrong- right. That’s fake.
Admitting your flaws is the quality of an authentic leader; they are hard to find but you can easily find crowds of those that don’t. Flaws are natural. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Be authentic and you can succeed in your personal, professional and social life.
Pushing on the elliptical machine for over thirty minutes, I increased the resistance to simulate climbing stairs for the remainder of my workout. It was quiet until a trainer and his client (who is serious about losing weight) walked in. I had seen them at the gym for the last three months but never had a conversation with either one of them. We all get familiar with those voices that disregard the presence of anyone else around them, and talk as loudly as possible to make their presence known—this duo had that annoying loud pitched voice. Even with no intention to partake in their discussion, I was now forced to hear the conversation of the day.
“It has been three months and I am still struggling with my weight,” says the trainee. The physical trainer nods. “But I think your endurance has increased since you started,” he said in a positive tone. “But what about the weight?” asked the guy looking for hope to find a solution to his problem. “I have also changed my diet like you asked,” he added, as he breathed heavily and sped up on the treadmill. Questioning his weight loss program, the trainee said, “maybe I need more motivation.”
I wiped the machine I was working out on, picked up my keys, and walked out the exit door. Walking back, I realized that as human beings we are apt in blame storming; we rely on all the external sources that we so confidently assume will help us achieve our goals. Whether it is dropping the extra pounds, doing better in our relationship, performing better at work —always looking for some external force—that will help us make our mark. Motivation is that external stimulus that ignites the desire to achieve something more, but, it is not the sole ingredient that helps us accomplish that something.
The difference between those who accomplish their set goals and those who do not, is not the level of motivation. The primary reason why they are successful in accomplishing their goals, is the strategies they create to stay the course, and overcome all the challenges and roadblocks.
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