Is Your Life Obscure?

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Ever since I can remember, I never missed a day without performing my morning ritual. I am awake; but I still keep my eyes closed, and I feel like staying in bed. I am physically still, but my mind is already in action—filled with thoughts. Sometimes I try to decode my dreams and make sense of it. But my thoughts don’t’ stop there. “What time is the meeting with the media reporter today? I will take my notes I wrote from last week to make sure I can answer the questions effectively. Do I have my white shirt and gray pants cleaned? We have not done laundry in the last four weeks. I will do that over the weekend. What else was I supposed to do over the weekend? I need to take Sunny (my dog) for his eye check-up. Do I still have his eye medication? I need to check that.” And then thoughts that have no connection with my previous thoughts. “I should appreciate everything I have, and not always want something more. I get food to eat, I am healthy, I help both our parents, my wife is very supportive, and everything is just fine. I should complain less. But I don’t complain too much, do I? I should get up and get ready now.”

Our morning rituals might not be identical but they exist for most of us. Sometimes, we feel there is so much that we have to accomplish, at work, with kids, with the family, in school, cook, clean, and the list is longer some days and shorter on others. Independent of our culture, race or background we are all here to accomplish. Every one of us has that to-do list for the day. Whether you go to school, stay at-home, work for someone, run a business or are retired, whether you are married, single or divorced as long as we are here and alive, we are all on this journey to accomplish—accomplish tasks.

Most of us like to know what is on our plate for the day, no one likes surprises. Why? Because most of us like to be prepared for things. If we have to execute a task at the last minute, we get uncomfortable. Why? Because of the unknowns. “If I get called for a last minute meeting or training at work on my day off, will I make it there on-time? Do I have to rush through the traffic?” No one likes unknowns because they bring fear along with them. Fear of not accomplishing the task.

However, being present in what you are doing even when the results are obscure, increases the probability of accomplishing the task successfully. If you get called at work at the last minute and all you have is questions and fear about not making it there on-time, or begrudging why you got called on your day-off, you have set the stage for a rough day for yourself.

Live here now is a practice shared at iexcelevents by IE Sigma® that could help you reduce or eliminate the fear brought from the unknowns we experience in our relationships, career or any other domain in life, and help create transformation for excellence. Implementing a practice to focus your attention on the task you are performing, can transform you, so you can enjoy even the unknowns that come your way in this journey we call life.

How well do you know yourself?

Juggling to crunch in numbers to prepare a costing proposal while my manager Debbie took a day off to enjoy time with her family; her boss Craig walked into my office. As always, he pulled one of the vacant chairs from a cube behind me and made himself comfortable by placing and crossing both his legs on the empty desk next to me. “Do you have everything you need to prepare the quote this morning?” he said, huffing and reclining in the chair. For the next few seconds, I  continued to crunch numbers in the red, green and yellow color highlighted spreadsheet that I had been working on non-stop for hours. “I have most of the information, but there are a few questions that I can call Debbie to get answers on,” I replied to Craig in an optimistic tone. I tried really hard not to get him involved. My attempt to keep Craig from asking me questions was futile. Unwillingly, I discussed the concerns I had about some key elements that were needed to be plugged into the spreadsheet to get an accurate costing for this proposal. As always, he came up with an answer which contradicted my boss Debbie.  “I would like you to do it my way and not Debbie’s and finish the task,” he replied in a stern voice. “A CEO trumps over an engineering manager any day,” and he walked away.

As I was driving back from work, I ruminated over my conversation with Craig in the morning. It led me to question about titles and designations define us. Often, we take the titles we hold in the organizations we work for, as our true identity. I am a teacher, I am an engineer, I am an accountant, I am a mother, I am a husband and the list keeps morphing as we move through different phases of life. But what is the true “I am.”

To find your true identity — you need to create a connection with yourself, that is beyond a personal or professional title. Creating an understanding of who we are is possible when we rewire the brain: transform the thought processes that make us believe that our job or our relationship status is our true self. Build your unique strategy to create such transformation and find your true identity.

Learn more about Kit Gupta, an engineer turned entrepreneur who is working to create transformation in the lives of individuals around the world through his work at his non-profit IE SIGMA® and by organizing iExcel Events.

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