The desire to want or not want change in profession and personal life is more than wanting something different. Creating an understanding of the reasons that drive you to desire change is the fundamental step most commonly missed when looking for something different in profession and relationships.
Kit Gupta and iExcel Events by IE SIGMA® share the reason why individuals want, or not want change in their life.
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The news about my boss, Andy, giving his two-week notice spread like wild fire in the department. Everyone who reported to him was apprehensive about what the next guy was going to be like.
Is the new guy going to be better or worse than Andy? Everybody was concerned about how this change would affect them, including other managers that worked with Andy.
Weeks later after Andy was gone, as I was working on the production floor, one of the technicians came up to me and said, “So I heard you have a new boss now.”
“Do I?” I inspected some plastic parts coming off a molding machine.
“You didn’t get the news yet? You and I will both be working for Shawn now,” he said as he scrunched up his face in discontent.
“Is is that bad?” I inquired.
“I don’t know how much you’ve worked with him, but he doesn’t deserve to be a manager,” he added, “The stars were lined up just right for him and the timing of it was right; that’s the only reason why he got to become a manager.”
Years later, I asked my audience at a speaking event: if they believed that everything, every single thing that they have in their life was because of their action. Some of them agreed, others did not.
Look at the above scenario. Andy made a clear conscious decision to quit and move somewhere else. So Andy created what he wanted through his action. However, Andy’s action also resulted in creating a vacant spot in the department. It’ll be foolish to say that Shawn intended that.
Did Shawn get the position because of his own action?
Some might argue that just like Andy, Shawn made a conscious decision of taking the position, so he created what he wanted through his action. Yes. But one intricate component of this scenario is that the decision made by one person (Andy) impacted what the other person (Shawn) got. That is referred to as destiny by some and opportunity by others.
Every one of us experiences this phenomenon in our personal relationships or professional careers at some point of time in our life. That relationship that you so deeply desired with someone, but it never worked out. The job or career that you so yearned for, but you ultimately ended up doing something that you had never dreamed of. Perhaps there is a component that we don’t have a control over: people and events both, which changes what we end up with.
No matter what you call it: destiny or opportunity, taking action is what ultimately makes destiny or opportunity a reality. Whether the result in what you expected or not—take action.
Even though Millennials are dominating the workforce, they don’t necessarily like their jobs. That’s where Kit Gupta and iExcel Events come in. Coming from a background in engineering, Kit left a successful and growing career and followed his passion.
Kit now works with young professionals on how to find the job that best suits them. Kit says, “the goal is to find a job where you feel that is what you’re passionate about; where you feel fulfilled. Where every single day when you go in from 8-5 or 9-5, you feel that is where you belong.”
First, Kit suggests knowing yourself. Know what your strengths and weaknesses are and which job field you’d prefer to be in. Then, you should focus on three core principles:
-Rewire your brain
-Think beyond profits
-Live here, now
So, if you’re looking for a career change, check out Kit Gupta and iExcel Events.
Pushing on the elliptical machine for over thirty minutes, I increased the resistance to simulate climbing stairs for the remainder of my workout. It was quiet until a trainer and his client (who is serious about losing weight) walked in. I had seen them at the gym for the last three months but never had a conversation with either one of them. We all get familiar with those voices that disregard the presence of anyone else around them, and talk as loudly as possible to make their presence known—this duo had that annoying loud pitched voice. Even with no intention to partake in their discussion, I was now forced to hear the conversation of the day.
“It has been three months and I am still struggling with my weight,” says the trainee. The physical trainer nods. “But I think your endurance has increased since you started,” he said in a positive tone. “But what about the weight?” asked the guy looking for hope to find a solution to his problem. “I have also changed my diet like you asked,” he added, as he breathed heavily and sped up on the treadmill. Questioning his weight loss program, the trainee said, “maybe I need more motivation.”
I wiped the machine I was working out on, picked up my keys, and walked out the exit door. Walking back, I realized that as human beings we are apt in blame storming; we rely on all the external sources that we so confidently assume will help us achieve our goals. Whether it is dropping the extra pounds, doing better in our relationship, performing better at work —always looking for some external force—that will help us make our mark. Motivation is that external stimulus that ignites the desire to achieve something more, but, it is not the sole ingredient that helps us accomplish that something.
The difference between those who accomplish their set goals and those who do not, is not the level of motivation. The primary reason why they are successful in accomplishing their goals, is the strategies they create to stay the course, and overcome all the challenges and roadblocks.
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Addressing the last question from the audience on raw material challenges in the medical device industry, I said, “Thank You.” Panning from the left to the right of the conference hall, watching attendees applaud; I continued to stretch my lips from ear to ear and sat on the table with the panel of speakers where my name was displayed. After all the speakers are done sharing their thoughts on the topics they had chosen to speak on, one question that can be felt radiating in every square inch of the room is— What time does the networking reception start? The evening receptions at these conferences are to relish the snacks you normally don’t eat at home, imported cheese and of course free wine; but we are all here with an agenda — an agenda to see what do you have to offer? The ubiquitous question that will decide whether you are worth anyone’s time— what do you do? At the evening reception, holding a glass of red wine in one hand, I joined a group which had some familiar faces in it. “Well done, that was a great presentation!,” said one of the guys in a gray suit and blue tie. “Thanks,” I replied followed by an abrupt pause. I had met him in the same conference last year as well. His name is Bill, maybe not; I am horrible with birthdays and unfortunately with names. I have mixed Bob’s with Bill’s and Sarah’s with Sandra’s. My wife has told me for seven years, “just don’t say their name if you are not sure.” This time, I did not want to embarrass myself, hence the abrupt pause. “So what do you?” asks another unfamiliar face in the group. If you are intelligent, you need to decipher that— “I am here to sell you anything, even if I don’t have it, I will make it for you!” The conversation went on for a few minutes for the guy to decide if I was worth pursuing as a lead. An exchange of business cards happened while I kept sipping the savory wine until the glass was empty. On the surface, it all seemed like a staged drama.
After attending numerous conferences around the country and as a speaker in a few, every reception, every marketing dinner, I knew the agenda everyone had for coming to these conferences. They say, sometimes it only takes one event to find the answer you are looking for. Well, the conference in Cleveland was the one for me— it was a life transformational event. As I was sitting on a round table with a “highly qualified” group of people from Fortune 500 companies, I glanced at the badge hanging from my neck that I was given to wear at all times. I saw my first and last name, and right below my name was the name of the corporation I worked for. While the group I was dining with was talking about the New England Patriots, in a very subtle manner, I quickly glanced at everyone’s badge. Clearly, every one of them had the corporations they worked for attached to their name. The only people in the room that did not have their corporation’s name hanging from their necks were the servers. In that moment, the only thought that came to my mind was — if I only had my first and last name written on my badge, would I get the same treatment like I did from the sales guys? As I dined that night, I kept thinking, what if every person here was to strike the name of the corporations they work for from their badges— would they be looked at differently? Would they be treated differently?
Our job, our profession, the work we do, whether we work for a small or big corporation, or if we are self-employed, we carry our job titles with us to give ourselves an identity. We all know and have used the conversation starter—so what do you do? Which implies, how do you earn a living? How do you pay your bills? How much money do you make? Are you any different than me? And all the other comparative analysis questions that are hidden in just one question, what do you do?
Try going to work for a day without a label. I am the owner, I am an IT engineer, I am the marketing director, I am the CEO, CFO, COO or whatever label you carry to describe to the world who you are. Instead, if you rewire your brain to think that I am here for service, to create excellence in my life, so I can help others excel; you start creating success in every action— every day—in everything you do. This is a tough transformation to create since our professional domains have been conditioned with years of “I am…” but once you transition into working independent of the professional labels, you become an open-heart and open-mind that creates excellence in his or her life and for everyone else around them.
In the summer of 2012 in New Delhi, the sun behind the smoggy clouds felt piercing through the window of the car straight onto my face causing it to burn. Sitting on the passenger side, I wished the window was tinted but because of the heightened rate of crimes in one of the most populated cities in the world, the law did not permit to have dark tinted windows anymore. Exhausted from just a short trip in the summer heat waiting for the stop light to turn green, I heard a tap on my side of the window. A young boy wearing an over-sized shirt placed a sun shade on my window blocking the sun from falling on my face. I felt the breeze coming from the air condition suddenly cooling me off. My dad pulled the window down from the driver side and I looked at the face of the child who hoped to make a deal. In a stern voice “How much,” my father asked. “Forty rupees for a set of two,” replied the boy. Even the boy knew his offer was high but he knew if a customer is interested, seldom do they walk away without making a counter offer. Sure enough he received a counter offer to sell a set of four for forty rupees. The boy looked away for a few seconds like he was doing the math to calculate where that would put him from his target goal. Very firmly, the boy replied, “If I accept your offer, I will have to give up my meal for two days,” and he walked away from the traffic as the light turned green.
There is an innate desire that every individual has, to do better in anything they do. Even a young boy on the streets of New Delhi who perhaps has no formal education in business or sales is not oblivious of what doing better means to him. Independent of his age there were certain goals, certain expectations that the boy wanted to meet and get a sense of gratification in the deal he makes. It has been over five years and I think of that event numerous times. I realized that an event that could be mundane in the lives of millions of other people was an exemplary stage performance for me to understand the meaning of being better or as I call it “Integrating Excellence.” As long as we are alive, we are constantly striving for excellence by setting and meeting goals in our relationships, our profession and the society. Every individual has a different way of executing their plan to become better. Each day in our personal relationships and our profession we make an effort to become better by setting goals for ourselves and we strive to achieve those goals. After all, life is all about continuous improvement and the creation of excellence.
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